“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.”—Henry James.
I’ve always very much lived by the rule that being kind to others is pretty much the meaning of life.
It’s actually only quite recently that I’ve accepted that one of the people (and perhaps the only person) you need to be kind to is yourself. This is strangely difficult when you’ve spent all of your life putting others first. Putting others first is a tricky habit to break, and even when I’m actually trying to be kind to myself I struggle to identify exactly what it is that I need or want. And then when I do actually do something for myself then the guilt comes along with it, which negates all happy feelings and sends endorphins fleeing.
I’ve spent a huge amount of time on this, and I’m happier for it. I still struggle with guilt, and giving myself permission to even do something for myself, but certainly over the last week I’m taking time for myself and not feeling so guilty about it because I’ve realised that, actually, if I feel better and content, everyone around me will benefit.
So being kind to yourself is being kind to others.
Keep smiling 😀